Patrick Bitsui: I am 20... and getting married in Sept. My fiance and I started dating when we were 14. My suggestion would be move intogether for a year first and then get married. Don't look at your age... look at your experience as a couple. We have been together for almost six years and have lived together... and have NEVER broken up. We feel we are ready to get married :) OH and we have been engaged for almost 2 years. Long engagement I think would be a good idea. Maybe get engaged after high school, move in together, see how it works, and THEN get married.
Toshiko Reimers: Everyone i know that got married that young didnt work out (nowadays, not back in the 70's) but that doesnt mean it isnt possible. i changed soooo much after i graduated in the first 2 years that i broke up with my long time boyfriend because we both changed in different ways. I know people that had dated 5 years and still broke up when they were 19/20. I would wait if it is at all possible,! you can still live together and act married, it just wont be legal
Gertrude Darke: sandy and diz, go fight your battles else where.
Kenneth Queener: I think you should wait until you've been out of high school a couple years, at least. Don't marry for convenience. If you're going to college, finish your undergrad first. Then you'll be ready for life as an adult.
Esteban Lyson: My mother is dead, and I don't have a MOH.Thank you, though.
Timmy Bustard: Because some people are just downright rude and mean.I am not married, but planning it, and I am planning on making my own invites, cake, favours (if we even bother) and other items such as the name cards and table centrepieces.We're also having a friend do the photos (she's a great photographer).I reckon, having priced up, that we will save well over £2000 if not more. Which means we can have the ceremony where we want (which is a lot, as it's a 'per hour' rental cost, but that's our ONE pricey thin! g we're getting cause we're saving more).Some people have alre! ady turned their noses up at me when they heard my plans - someone even said 'if you can't afford it, don't do it.'Well, it's not about money. It's about being sensible and practical for your needs. We COULD go out and throw money away, but I am arty and crafty and have made others before...so why the hell not?Plus, if we had a tight budget, so freaking what? Why are people so caught up with money??? I think it's partly because we both have well paid jobs, so people were perhaps expecting us to spend a bomb. The thing is, we chose a house last year we knew would mean we couldn't have an expensive wedding, so though they know we have good income, they have no idea how much money we actually DON'T have to throw around - and it's none of their business either! But our wedding will be lovely (as will your friends) and it'll cost us less cutting back on the smaller things that add up. I'd rather pay some off our mortgage than on sugared almonds favours and invites that wi! ll be tossed out! Tell your friends to just let it roll off their back - these a**holes aren't worth it.And tell them congrats about the bump and wedding :-)P.S what does mjb mean? Is it an acronym I've missed :-/...Show more
Connie Dickirson: being a crafty person myself I always admire the ingenuity and talent that comes out with others in DYI projects....Kudos for the way you handled it and maybe Mrs. Gotta Be A Big Mouth And Brag About How Expensive My Wedding Was Not That Anyone Cares learned a valuable lesson in the social graces.....Expensive is NOT always better and one should make sure one's brain is engaged before operating one's mouth....good luck....Show more
Davina David: It is different for everyone. I would suggest waiting until you have lived together for like at least a year first. There is no reason to rush, if it is right then it is right, waiting a little longer will not make a difference.In my personal experience I moved in with my bf afte! r high school and we stayed together for 5 years and were engaged but o! ne day I realized I was a grown woman and I was no longer in the love with the boy I loved in High School. I met my Fiance a year later and we are getting married in 2 months. People Change
Willetta Munhall: I've been with my fiance since 2005. We have a 19 month old son. Currently we are both 18. We are getting married next august so I will be 19 and he will have just turned 20 on the 4th of august. I think if your truly in love and he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, go for it.
Hye Caulley: Because those people are 18 years old and have unrealistic dreams of elaborate cookie-cutter princess weddings. What a little brat that girl is.
Verdie Wollen: I'm getting married on June 20th. I'm getting ready at a bridal room at the venue. What should I bring? I don't want to forget anything. What are things I might need in case of an emergency? What are small details most people overlook? What is something you wish you had?
Darwin Ect! on: We are an older, well invested, couple who don't need money for our honeymoon, to set up a house, etc. We don't need the money.
Malcom Bourek: Even though I have not been married yet I would wait and "grow up".Do you want to go to college? Do you want to experience life on your own?Future Dreams?Future plans?Do you want to travel?Have a life? Can you make decisions at 18 that will change your life?No I personally would not get married at 18. It sounds like he is the one that is making the decisions for you and that right there would be a "red flag" and a way to say "slow down, buddy you're moving to fast for me".Please give this some serious thought and if you have any doubts please don't go through with the wedding. Wait a few years and see how you feel.
Charline Granes: Of course, some people just think its not a "real" wedding unless you've laid down a couple Gs. What those people don't realize is that most of the time they are just fools who are getting! way over charged for one day. To me, some people spend waaay to much t! ime and money into planning a wedding and not enough time planning their marriage. I am having a small back yard wedding and my best friend just had a small diy wedding too. If you have the talent for diy then most people aren't any wiser, and I think its a lot more personal too. I get the attitude from my FMIL all the time about having a small wedding, but I just shrug it off. She doesn't understand what we want or why we want it, and she never will. Some people are just clueless, accept it and move on and love every minute of a really great diy wedding!...Show more
Bernie Cerra: Presumptuous, rude people do not impress anyone.I never been in that situation because I socialize with people that has class and good manners. She was out of line and at 18 she certainly doesn't have any education or tact.Good luck...Show more
Kassie Kay: WTH is wrong with those younger women? Do they have no sense of class or respect? If I were you I would have ended up saying someth! ing much worse than you. lol. Like maybe, "Well, uh, your $5 outfit ain't very nice either, but everyone's all gotta look at it" or just smack her. And HELLO...nobody care how much she spent anyways, those placecards are a rip-off anyways, nobody pays attention to that! So rude. Phsshht. DIY and handmade things are SMART. If they are what you can afford, then good for you, who else's business is it anyways. That stupid 18 year old probably spent her mommy and daddy's money on those overpriced namecards. She probably ran them into the poorhouse with her spending habits. I wouldn't worry about her, she's retarded for even opening her big mouth in the first place....Show more
Antonia Boomershine: When I was previously engaged (we broke up a few months before the wedding) a friend of mine made some very nasty comments about my wedding plans saying that I was cheap and obviously didn't care nor love my fiance. I replied saying that me spending as little as possible doesn't! make me cheap, it makes me practical and that love has nothing to do w! ith money. Granted, I didn't love him, and we got engaged because we found out I was pregnant. When I miscarried, this "friend" told me I should use the money I had saved for the baby for my wedding! I stopped talking to her then....Show more
Filiberto Ranalli: I moved in with a boyfriend at 18 and it was a big mistake. We ended up maturing and growing apart very quickly and we shouldn't have rushed it at such a young age. I don't know you so I can't speak to your maturity level, but I would say 18 is awfully young to make a life long commitment.If you are committed to moving in together, I would say not to get married. If you live together for some years (like 5) and decided you still want to be together then you can contemplate it then. There is no rush to get married. If you are meant to be then it will work out without marriage being necessary right away!
Hugo Pittari: so me and my boyfriend want to get married after high school. were both seniors. he w! ants me to move to nebraska with him and get an apartment and stuff. im getting kicked out when i turn 18 anyway, so i have to move out anyway. but honestly, i need some advice on whether i should get married so young. i think that the age a person is ready to get married at is different for everyone. but anyone who got married young or have any advice to share please do so. thank you.!...Show more
Miguel Densley: I consider tickets tackey, it's my wedding, not a flippin circus freak show.
Maynard Reevers: If it is part of your culture (if I understand correctly the dollar dance is part of Polish culture, is it not?), then it is fine to do the traditional dollar dance. I am not really a fan of it but it's not part of my culture.However, your plan doesn't sit right with me. Why not just pay for your guests to have drinks? It is rude to fund raise at the wedding to pay for anything wedding related. If you want to have alcohol (there is no rule saying you have to) ! then you, or whoever is hosting, should be the one providing it.Edit: B! ut they are your guests, they should not have to pay for *anything*. Whether it is the set up or the actual alcohol, what you are proposing is rude, plain and simple....Show more
Todd Stogner: Sandy-you spelled retarded wrong.
Jon Bergmeier: I had decided that we would not have a dollar dance at our wedding, but after fiance and I discussed we came up with this idea. We are both Polish and therefore think that we should have it. Here is our twist, because of our venue we cannot sell alcohol, but our guests will have to pay for set ups. So we are going to have the "Dollar Dance" right after our first dance but we are going to announce that all "dollars" that are collected are going to be given to the bartender and to use for drinks. Yes, I understand that essentially people are going to be giving to the bride knowing that the money will go to the bar so people will actually be "buying" their drinks via the bride. We want to announce what we are planning beca! use we don't want anyone to assume that we are keeping the money, give us something big and then freak them out when we give the money to the bar. So, huh?...Show more
Arden Strachn: Oh I LOVE Being Crafty! LOL! We had so much fun planning our wedding! My sister loved doing ceramics so she made all the bridesmaids "Bridesmaid Dolls" to put at the head table, which had their names written on the bottom of the "Dress". Then we had this woman make these beautiful green satin dresses that we put over teddy bears to place as the centerpieces at our Bridal shower! Everybody loved them! We also made ceramic place cards. :) It was fun. That girl and her uppity 40,000 dollar wedding need a crash course in creativity!!...Show more
Merna Fauset: Again lala, we ARE providing the booze, the venue cannot charge for that, then venue is charging for and keeping the money for set ups.
Ronnie Sardi: Ugh, what a nasty woman. I think it is stupid when people spend huge amou! nts of money *even if they have it* on a wedding. I mean really? $40,! 000 on a wedding?! Mine was $10,000 and very nice. Yes we did get crafty, but my mom is an excellent seamstress so she made my dress and the bridesmaid dresses. We also made the center pieces and the decorations. I didn't let the haters bother me for the mere fact that me and my husband's future is more important that spending a lot of money on one party. Because we didn't have a huge wedding and go into debt our debt is very low, both cars are paid off, we still rent, but have good jobs. I can't be bothered caring what other people thought of the wedding, it was perfect in my eyes!...Show more
Jed Porada: First Ms. X I explained that because of our venue guests MUST PAY FOR SET UPS which the bartender/venue keeps. We are purchasing all alchohol that NO ONE PAYS FOR. If people are will to participate in a dollar dance we would take that money and give it to the bar so that people could have free drinks. It isn't a scam if you pay attention when you read.
Travis Colomb: some people are just show off and believe the more expensive the better but thats never true .
Abel Adger: Eh, ignore the ignorant.
Jeremy Donohue: I agree with what you said; it's your decision when it is right to be married. I got married when I was 18, the only advice I have is to have your family and friends near you. In any marriage they help tremendously. My husband is in the military and sadly he got deployed two! weeks after we got married. Being in a new place and being newlyweds i! s scary. :)I hope that helps a little. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Deangelo Marchak: Seriously, do we really care what a snotty 18 year old thinks? $40000 weddings can be tacky too. Just let it go, it's not worth worrying over. As long as your friend is happy with the completed product who cares. Some people out there are really crafty and can make things most of us wish we could have. So again, tell Ms Snotty pants to mind her business, no one asked for her opinion.
Byron Fortmann: if you guys are serious i would say just get engaged. because getting married causes a lot of things that most young people dont think about. like sharing a bank account and stuff like that. i say move in with each other for a year or so and then decide about getting married.
Robin Tommie: Being 20 myself, I'm applauded at how some younger people act. I came from a poorer single parent household but even if i HAD a bunch of money i wouldn't spend 40K on a wedding. ! How do you think people who have money keep it, they DON'T spend it on stupid stuff (they invest wisely). Having those white doves flown in from Japan (or whatever) at 1K isn't a necessity. My mom did her whole wedding (plus made her own dress) EVERYONE loved it. Just because it's more cost efficient (cheap but in a good way) and not expensive doesn't mean it's worse or better. Unfortunately some people think cheap is bad, expensive is good, that's not always true.A woman my mom worked with recently spent 4500 on her daughter designer "one of a kind" wedding gown, yet we found it online for MUCH less, same exact gown. That woman's a teacher no less (notorious for not making much around here). Some people don't know how to comparsion shop. I'm getting the same gown I saw at Alfred Angelo, David's Bridal, and Maggie Sottero for $176.18 (including shipping). It just shows were those people will be when all their money is gone, or their husband loses his job and they don't know! how to budget....Show more
Justin Casten: mjb
Maynard Phou! bandith: age is just a number. i'm 19 and getting married next month. me and my future hubby live together and have a really great relationship. but if you have to ask other people if your ready to get married your probably not. good luck
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